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Different Options for Laying Your Parents to Rest

funeralhome1The loss of a parent is never easy and brings with it not only the emotional grieving process but the real work of planning a funeral and a way of remembering them.  When you are faced with honoring the life of parent and planning a funeral, here are some of the items you will need to consider for laying them to rest:

  • When a loved one dies the first step you will have to take in planning the funeral is in choosing a funeral home.  You may already have some idea of the funeral home you wish to use, or you may get suggestions from local authorities.
  • Meet together with family members to begin discussing the different funeral options.  Had your parent ever talked about what their wishes were?  Does the family have specific requests?  Who will be financially responsible for paying for the funeral service and burial?  What information do you need to collect for the funeral home?  While some of the details may be hard to discuss, it is important to have a clear understanding between family members as you begin the funeral planning process.
  • You will meet with a member of the funeral home staff.  The funeral home will collect from you important information for filing the death certificate and completing an obituary.  They will them begin to guide you through the funeral planning process.
  • One of the first decisions you will make is whether your loved one will be buried or cremated.  You will them be shown a selection of caskets or cremation containers to choose from.  For many families, when faced with choosing a casket or urn is when the reality of your parent’s death begins to become a reality.  The funeral home will not rush you in your choice and will understand the emotion that is involved.
  • You will complete the funeral planning process and choose from the various options.  Some of the decisions you will have to make include choosing a burial plot, choosing the clothing your parent will wear to be buried in, and flower arrangements.
  • The funeral service itself will also need to be planned.  Begin by deciding on a date, time, and location that allows as many family members as possible to be present.  Then you can begin planning the service itself.  Who will speak?  Will there be musical numbers?  You will also need to choose pallbearers.  Ask a clergyman or funeral director to oversee the funeral proceedings.  Decide on transportation from the service to the graveside.

Planning the funeral for a parent can be an emotional time.  You will be working with family members with differing opinions, emotions will be fresh, and the choices will be many.  A funeral director will help you work together as family members to create a funeral service that will help you remember your loved one in a respectful and loving way.


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